My dad once told me that if I want to go far in life I should have a good head on my shoulders, not focus too much on my beauty and always ask for things with a smile . Lol of course my dad thinks I’m pretty. .. I’m his daughter 🙂 Anyway… a female friend of mine in high school also told me that those that are able to age properly without fear of “getting old” are those that were told how smart they are rather than those that were bombarded on how gorgeous and beautiful they are.
You see, I grew up thinking that everyone is beautiful. I didn’t see any one as more or less pretty than me. To me, life was about having fun, making friends and LIVING. It even bothered me when men would try to put my sisters and I against each other by telling us that one is prettier than the other. It never made sense to me because i would always be in shock. If you wanna give me a compliment, don’t do so at the cost of my loved ones. Beauty is always relative.
My upbringing was so interesting that I lived in this delusion that the man that I’m gonna settle with will be one that sees my true beauty and not care weather I wore makeup or not. And that all he would care about was my heart and my intellect. Lol what a time to be alive!!Have you ever tried going on a date without makeup? I think because we so used to wearing it , we feel self conscious without it. Anyway… I felt more confident on a date with a guy if I was wearing make up. It made me feel that I was putting a lot more effort .. but… after a couple more dates with different guys I realised that if I drank a whole lot more water and spent more time on skin care than makeup… I’d feel and look better barefaced. But I also became aware that men are attracted to the ” paint “, the red lips, the perfectly mascarad eyelashes and the even toned skin that some of us can only achieve with foundation.
When I first started this blog www.beliciousmuse.com I didn’t wear a lot of makeup. If you go to my first post, it was minimal makeup and a good outfit. But I realised that people aren’t THAT interested in natural beauty. Beauty addicts wanted to know how to get fleeky eyebrows, strobe, highlight, contour, conceal, cover etc. So I started to wear more makeup to show girls how to cover up perfectly. You see.. beauty is relative to the time, culture, nature and currently social media.
Today… social media is about a tiny size 24 thin waist, snatched. It’s about perfect thighs, squats , and the perfect face. It’s about a small pointy nose, the perfect eyelashes, sunset coloured eye shadows and the sun catching highlight.
I was born perfect… there was nothing wrong with me and I’m still perfect. When I started wearing more makeup on my blog… my subscribers grew, followers increased and I got more business.
I could have flourished going after a niche market that focused on none mainstream trends but looking like an “instagram model” made quicker money…
So I’m here, going on and on about natural or manufactured beauty of which I’m OK with either and use either when needed. You get a man that loves how gorgeous you look without makeup at home but hopes and prays you put some on going to Brazil next week to meet his friends. So I was perfect, but started a journey to what people consider perfect while I remained perfect.
We are all born perfect. When we put on makeup everyday… it’s not because we think we are not perfect anymore…. it’s just that we live in a world where THAT is a norm. So if my face is beat… don’t get it twisted… I’m not covering up any insecurities, It’s for bizniz. And if you see me snatched for the gauds… giiiirrrlllll…. get your life. We do whatever we like, we roll with the punches and, if trends changes, we change with the trenss.
Barefaced or face beat. Beauty is within us and it will never leave us. Stay beautiful with or without your face honey… because you are born perfect.
Pictures taken by Musa Ndlovu
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Shoes: Madison Shoes