1. Mind your own business:
Whether it is a stranger in a cafe or family member, giving unwanted advice/opinions is an invasion of privacy. You do not have the right to plant yourself in the middle of other people’s business. It doesn’t matter if you are right or wrong in what you have to say. Babes Wodumo wasn’t asking for your immediate help, she was showing you whats been happening to her. To be a better friend you could have asked, what can I do? Is there anything I can do? How can I help? Are you ok? Ask before Uzfaka.
2. Twitter is social media but it can also be used as a helpline
Babes Wodumo has pulled some of the most remarkable marketing tactics of our generation. I.e the USB story promoting her song Ghanda Ghanda. Also,Babes Wodumo decided to use a social media app to bring awareness to Physical Abuse.
3. We should stop treating grown women like children.
Babes Wodumo is a grown woman, not a teenager who needs saving or guidance. We should stop treating grown women like kids. The entire country was telling Babes what to do… as if Babes Wodumo had not once considered ALL the options.
4. We should stop pushing victims to go to the police when they aren’t ready.
Imagine being forced to open a case against your abuser but you still have to sleep in the same bed as him. You don’t know people’s situations… stop acting like you do.
Law Enforcement forces are allowing perpetrators of domestic violence to escape justice by “pushing responsibility” for prosecutions on to victims, rather than building cases themselves.
Officers need to “get on with their jobs” and track down evidence so they can pursue cases against offenders without relying on vulnerable victims to provide testimony.
Forces are failing to use their powers to protect abuse victims.
5. We don’t know Babes situation more than babes Wodumo does.
The truth is, someone can empathize and sympathize with whatever you are going through but they’ll never know how you feel.
Depending on the seriousness of the problem, a friend telling you they know how you feel could feel like they a diminishing whatever is bothering you. Even with the best of intentions, it can feel like you’re not being heard.
6. Fake news exist, always verify the facts:
See Who Else Is Reporting the Story? Check whether the story has been picked up by other well-known news publishers before retweeting. Stories from organizations like TimesLive and EWN, will have been checked and verified beforehand. If the information you have isn’t from a well-known source like these, there’s a chance that it could be fake.
However, you need to be careful even here. People who spread fake news and “alternative facts” sometimes create web pages, newspaper mockups, or “doctored” images that look official, but aren’t.
So, if you see a suspicious post that looks like it’s from CNN, for example, check CNN’s homepage to verify that it’s really there.
7. People will try to make money from ANYTHING. including other peoples pain.
Schadenfreude ; German:
is the experience of pleasure, joy, or self-satisfaction that comes from learning of or witnessing the troubles, failures, or humiliation of another. It is one of four related emotions or concepts.
Schadenfreude is a complex emotion, where rather than feeling sympathy towards someone’s misfortune, schadenfreude evokes joyful feelings that take pleasure from watching someone fail. This emotion is displayed more in children than adults, however adults also experience schadenfreude, they are just better at concealing their expressions
Let’s do better as a country.